During the holiday season, triggers which negatively affect your emotional elevation abound. Higher expectations, deadlines and a harried pace contribute to the potential for us to be gone in sixty seconds or less to an unhappy place. Gone from fun family sing alongs with each other in the car, while looking at lights, to Rudolph the Red Faced Rage – Deer.
Jumping into a frustrated, disagreeable, anxious and/or deflated state may steal away the rest of an otherwise good day. To keep your good mood through the holiday season, keep these three statements handy.
How to be selective about what (or who) triggers your emotions:
- Ask yourself, “Do I have all the facts about what is happening?”
- Tell yourself, “If I wait, this may resolve itself.”
- Self-soothe, “I can handle this right now – the right way.”
The answer to number one is always, “No!” We never have ALL the facts. So, don’t give your power away to a moment that looks like a mess, sounds like a mess and will only become more messy if you jump in too. If there is truth you need to tell someone try to wait until a shared moment with that person can be had one-to-one.
Dawna Daigneault, Ed.S., LPC.
Better By Monday is a blog about one thing you can try, over the weekend, to feel a little better by Monday.